There are two ways to look at it: One being, "fake it till you make it." And the second, showing your vulnerability where you won't be judged and crushed for being honest.
We live in two worlds: One that we are surrounded by, and one that genuinely cares for us.
The world we are surrounded by consists of our friends, colleagues, neighbors, teachers, mentors, relatives, and people we may just know by their first name. The world that cares for us is a close circle of genuine friends and, basically, your immediate family.
If you show your vulnerable side to everyone, you will be made fun of. "Victim of the century," "weakest being," "duniya ka hara," "रोतलू बेचारा"—that's how your image will be portrayed. Nobody wants that, right? That's the reason the mask we wear of being fine is not a bad choice.
But when it comes to your trust circle, you should be able to open up to reveal your insecurities and vulnerabilities. But be very cautious while doing so because sometimes your "friends" may not be as trustworthy as you believed them to be. If they turn to their other side, they might take advantage of knowing your deep-dive version.
I believe your true partner, your true friend, is your spouse, and that person should know you in and out. You may not want to show your parents your failed side because that will make them feel like they failed in raising you. You can't show your torn pocket reality to your kids because you want them to see you as their hero.
But with your better half, you must unravel the mask and be as genuine as possible because they are the true support pillars of your life. They must know what you came through, what you are going through, and what might come to you. As I always say, open communication is the key to a successful marriage; you need to be honest about your health, your wealth, your mental state, and every damn thing that can impact you and the other.
For the rest of the world, "fake it till you make it" is best only when faking it doesn't create any financial burden on yourself.
Fake being fine with a fake smile—not like faking it with a fancy car bought with a massive loan with no repay provision. Never falsify your financials just to show off. Don't buy things under peer pressure, and don't go on trips that will rip off your pocket. Be honest when it comes to affordability; there is no faking it. If they call you "कंजूस-मक्खीचूस," let them.
REMEMBER: Eating one day in a 5-star hotel and fasting for rest of the month, makes zero sense.
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